But other than that, we aren't called to make people do what we think they should do. How do we know what is good for them?
Jesus said something like this to Saint Peter. Pete wanted to know what would happen to John.
"When Peter saw (John), he said to Jesus, 'Lord, what about him?'
"So this rumor spread to the brothers and sisters that this disciple would not die. Yet, Jesus did not tell him that he would not die, but, 'If I want him to remain until I come, what is that to you?'"
Years ago, when I was newly married a dear friend sent me a card about being a wife. She told me that God has an individual plan for each of us. And what he is doing in my husband was no business of mine. She said it much nicer, but we have to trust God with the ones we love. Often, what we think they need isn't what they need at all.
God says share life. Choose life. Give words of life to others. Words of life will be saturated with the fruit of the Spirit: "love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." Galatians 6:22-23.
As people grow and age they change. Someone we knew as a child is a different person when they are an adult. We don't know their life experiences. We don't know what God is talking to them about. We don't know where their heart is. We must tread lightly when we are dealing with other people's lives. With the best of intentions, we can hinder God in another person's life. Sometimes this is the hardest with adult children. They are still your children and you love them so much. You want the best for them. But we don't know what that is. It takes time to figure out the balance with adult children. Give yourself grace. Give them grace. And with others -- the same goes. If someone asks you for advice well then pray and then share. But don't demand they do what you tell them to do. That isn't friendship or love. That is a boss and employee relationship.
Have you done anything creative this year yet? Just do it -- not to be great at it, but just to enjoy it. What did you like to do as a child? Did you draw? Draw again. Did you fingerpaint? Then do that? Loved playing with playdough. Play with playdough as an adult. Whatever brings you delight, that fun joyful delight -- do that.