Yes or no.
Make a decision. Don't waffle. Don't hem and haw.
Tell me what you want to tell me and get on with it.
Don't waste time trying to be nice. Just do what needs doing. Be courageous in your actions and your words. Don't be a people-pleaser. Just do what you know is right.
That is me. That is how I approach life. It makes things simpler.
Then again, it doesn't.
Because while the decision-maker part of me has walked on the emotional part of me is left behind. I think we all experience this. We have to give ourselves time to catch up to the changes in life. We need to give ourselves grace and time. Yes, we might have moved on physically but the rest of us still is trying to find how to walk in this new world.
Sometimes we may condemn ourselves for our slowness within. We ought not do this. There's no condemnation in Jesus Christ (found in Romans 8:1). He doesn't condemn. He gives time and grace and mercy.
My oldest son is learning to be on his own. And he's flying. He's doing well. I still want to hear from him a few times a day. That isn't practical (but when is a doting mom practical?).
My youngest child has a cough right now. She's staying home today. She needs time to heal. And I need to realize this and see it is okay. For some reason I have this weird belief emotionally that I am responsible for the health of everyone in my home. If someone gets sick I feel like I have failed. I know isn't this true. And I had this belief before Maggie died in 2013 so it isn't because of her death (but this belief messes with my thoughts about why she died). I am praying God shows me the root of this wrong belief so He can root it out of me. In this I must give God time to act. He doesn't do things abruptly. He gives everything the time it needs to get right. He's the Master Gardener. He's the Perfect Artist. He's the Great Physician. And healing, true healing takes time. Sometimes it might appear like it comes suddenly but I guarantee that the "sudden healing" was preceded by a bunch of inner prep work done by God.
God is good all the time.
"For the LORD delights in you" Isaiah 62:4d