(OK, that might be a tangent but it will relate in the end. Just keep reading)
Let everything, absolutely everything that comes into your life make you better.
We have a choice in this. When bad things, sad things, rough things, stressful things come into our lives, we can let them make us more into the people God created us to be or we can move farther away from who we were created to be.
I've seen people choose both options -- people who've experienced sorrow who have allowed God to use it to deepen them as people in a good way, And people who've experienced great sorrow who have become less than who they are meant to be. The former is so much better.
Apostle John quotes Jesus in John 12:27-28. He writes, "what shall I say? 'Father, save Me from this hour?' But for this purpose I came to this hour. 'Father, glorify Your name.'"
In My Utmost For His Highest, Oswald Chambers writes, "Sorrow removes a great deal of a person's shallowness, but it does not always make that person better. Suffering either gives me to myself or it destroys me. You cannot find or receive yourself through success, because you lose your head to pride. And you cannot receive yourself through the monotony of your daily life, because you give in to complaining. The only way to find yourself is in the fires of sorrow . . . If you will receive yourself in the fires of sorrow, God will make you nourishment for other people."
What a great thing -- to be nourishment to others.
Nourishment is healing. So many need healing.
Back to that garden wall -- that's what God can do in us -- use the discarded and apparently worthless and awful parts of our life and put it together in such a way that it adds beauty and healing to our worlds.
Will you let God do that in you?
Someone desperately needs you to.