A lot of our problems in human relationships (including in the church and wherever a lot of humans work together) is that we are busybodies. We are like children in the worst way in this.
Let me give you an example. My three youngest are very close in age: I have two fourth graders and one third grader. They are doing better, but their bent is to tell on each other and to insist on everything being "fair." If one of them gets something, then one of the others wonders where their "something" is. If one gets praised, if they are in a very childish mood, the other pouts.
Now to be fair, let me say, my three youngest are doing much better at this and will grow out of it. BUT, often we adults don't grow out of it. We want our way when it comes to dealing with other people. If someone else gets praised and noticed for what they do, we sometimes think, "Hey, what about us? We're special too."
Another thing: often we want to control others. If we hear they speak badly about us we want them to stop it so we might talk negatvely about them.
All of this is behavior that needs to stop. None of it furthers the kingdom of God. All of it takes our eyes off of God and what He has for us. All of it is demeaning and negative and won't help anyone but the enemy.
Ashley Judd had a great op piece in The Daily Beast. Part of what she wrote has so spoken to me. It really goes along with this and I want to share it.