But only in revealing his own mind." Proverbs 18:2
When we seek to understand those we disagree with we are showing them love.
When we seek to understand those who show us hatred we are showing them love.
When we seek to understand those we don't want to even notice we are showing them love.
When we are content to be misunderstood by others but still seek to understand them we are showing them love.
And, we are being very much like Jesus.